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Hoping and Scoping: The Mess of Singleness

Let me be vulnerable for a second: I went out recently with a gorgeous girl ( I mean capital G gorgeous!) who has such godly character. I'm a pretty awkward guy in general but put me in a situation where it's just me one on one with a beautiful woman for a few hours and it's like watching any Nicholas Cage movie: it's a wreck!

Somehow though, this time the process of getting to know someone seemed to be different. After a few dates I realized not only did she have character but we had chemistry and compatibility between us and we continued to take a leap in getting to know one another. As time went on however we realized we didn't have commitment towards each other like we thought we did and the future looked all too scary and uncertain. Which stunk to find out because if you're anything like me you're mind goes to dream world where you start to plan your life for what dating will now look like. Kind of like Shawshank Redemption where you've served your time in prison and now boys it's time to get out of singleness. I'm back to square one going through the motions of rejection of what feels like the 57th time and I can't help to have thoughts like "God why am I here in this position? I have a desire. Why am I so awkward and weird? Do you not love me God?". So in reading many books and asking advice from Pastors I have huge respect for here are the top three points that always get brought up:

1. God has made you whole

First and foremost it's important to know that no one can complete you except for God. We can sometimes forget that we're all sinners including the other person we might be interested in and so it's super dangerous to think that another person can make us whole. Jesus is the only one who can truly satisfy us and complete us. There are so many verses that mention this but one that sticks out to me is Psalm 16:11 which states " You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fu